September 16, 2008 Peter

Love as a Way of Life Part 1

Finally went out an bought Gary Chapman’s latest book, “Love as a Way of Life” and I didn’t know what to expect. Funny thing,  I have never read any of his books but I have given a number of his “5 love languages” book as gifts to the bride and groom that I photograph. I am very pleased with the book thus far because of how thought provoking it is. It dives deep into not only how you “act” in public but also your secret thoughts and attitudes about people and your relationships. In short, in pokes the raw essence of you your world view. Keep in mind that I haven’t even finished the first chapter yet but let me give you the chapter headings.

Part One: Why we Want to Love

  1. The Satisfaction of a Loving Life

Part Two: The Seven Secrets to Love

  1. KindnessDiscovering the Joy of Helping Others
  2. PatienceAccepting the Imperfections of Others
  3. ForgivenessFinding Freedom from the Grip of Anger
  4. Courtesy – Treating Others as Friends
  5. Humility – Stepping Down So someone Else Can Step Up
  6. Generosity – Giving Yourself to Others
  7. Honesty – revealing Who You Really Are

Part Three: Making Love a Way of Life

  1. Making Love a Way of Life in Marriage
  2. Making Love a Way of Life in Parenting
  3. Making Love a Way of Life in the Workplace
  4. The Motivation to Life
Looking at the contents makes me think that I may just have a large helping of “in your face” reality check. I think that it is important to have some personal reflection of our attitudes, our relationships with others and even the relationship we have with ourself. Gary holds no punches when he writes, in short, that Love is sacrificially serving another in such a way that makes that person better.
One way to get a group of people rylied up is to ask them to define “Love” and then defend that definition. Typically people won’t really define but give heart felt examples of what love is. The problem with that, at least in my mind, is that a word defined in examples is too vague for me. So here is the definition of Love that I have come across. So you can let me know what you think.
Love is the statement of Commitment that is backed by sacrificial giving for the benefit of the one benig oved.
What say you?

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