December 10, 2008 Peter

How to fail, How to Succeed Pt. 4

This is the third installment of “How to fail, How to Succeed” series. If you haven’t been keeping up you can visit How to fail, How to Succeed Pt. 1 and How to fail, How to Succeed Pt 2 and How to fail, How to Succeed Pt. 3 to get caught up. The topic today will be No. 7(creating a definite plan)  REMEMBER:please comment on anything that you think that I may have missed.

Characteristics of a goal:

  1. Goals can be anything you want them to be:
  2. Goals must be realistic.
  3. Definite and without interpretation
  4. Write your goal down and memorize it
  5. Create an advisory board
  6. What you are going to give in return so that you will reach your goal?
  7. What is your definite plan to reach your goal.

7. What is your definite plan to reach your goal

Writing down your definite plan is the most important part of your seven steps to reaching your goal. The reason it isn’t the first is because if you don’t know what a goal is or how to define it, or even thinking about what you are going to give in return then how can you create a “definite plan” to reach your goal. Just like every other characteristic you must write down your action plan. In business school, I learned about BHAG [pronounced BEE-HAG] (Big Hairy Audacious Goal) and began applying it to my own life. Since I tend to go to the extreme, I really grabbed onto this. What was my big hairy audacious goal in my life? What was it that I wanted to accomplish before the end of my life for my grandchildren to experience? Well, I’m not going to tell you but take a few moments to think about yours.

Well, the six characteristics gives you everything you need to be successful. However, you must create a definite plan to get you there. BHAG cost time, effort, your heart, your passion and most importantly discipline. Discipline is about setting boundaries. Remember the saying, “There is a price to be paid for a commitment that was made.”  What are you willing to commit to go through with your definite plan? Are you willing to give up hanging out with friends? Are you willing to not go to starbucks so you can pay off your debt faster? Are you willing to put your heart on the line when  someone gives you harsh unsolicited critique of your work?

Ask yourself and answer these questions:

  • What is my time line? When am I going to start and when am I going to accomplish the goal?
  • What foundational work needs to occur before moving on?
  • What am I willing to give up in order to accomplish my goals?
  • Am I willing to feel alone b/c no one will supporting me?
There are thousands of questions you can ask yourself concerning what you are willing to pay and willing to give up so that you will reach your goal. Let me give you an case study about a friend of mine.
Scott (not his real name) has apparently fell head over heels for a girl who lives two states over! While talking to her he just decided to take her on a date. That’s right, out of the blue he told her that he was going to drive 3-4 hours to spend time with her over dinner for a few hours. And then when that’s done he will head back home in the wee hours of the morning.
Consider this:
  1. HIs car is broke and may or may not make the trip (he doesn’t care)
  2. He has known her for quite some time but doesn’t know her feelings toward him (he doesn’t care)
  3. He knows that if this relationship were to work, it’s going to be a long distance relationship (he doesn’t care.)
  4. He knows that if this relationship doesn’t work, it’s going to be a waste of time, money, effort, and emotional expense (he doesn’t care)
He doesn’t care because he has set his boundaries of what he is willing to do and willing not to do (definite plane) to reach his goal. It doesn’t matter if you think he is silly or not. The fact of the matter is …. he has committed himself to this endeavor and he has created a plan to reach his goal (even if he never reaches it).  His plan includes testing the waters. How many of us have made far less excuses on far more important “things.” Things like:
  • Family
  • Friends
  • Long lost friends
  • Sons and Daughters
  • Husbands and Wives

We are already in the season of giving and family. Give more or yourself and make the time to love your family. What changes do you need to make to start reaching your goals? Better yet, I would like to know what excuses you have used or what others have used to give up on personal goals.

 

Here are some more resources:

BHAG pdf

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