Christmas is just around the corner and that means more engagements and hopefully some renewing of the vows will take place. Thinking over the vows that I have heard throughout the year, I have come to appreciate the idea of renewing vows. Now that isn’t to say that you have to have a second ceremony but that you look back at them. I have been told over and over again is that it is important to have contracts between two people because contracts will keep friends…well friends. If there is a question or a disagreement concerning responsibilities between the two friends then all they have to do is go back and read the contract. Once the contract is read then it doesn’t matter how someone feels or thinks the agreement is in black and white staring back at the both of them.
I view marriage vows as covenants and as such they are between God and the couple. Because of the sacredness of the union it is important to revisit the vows to make sure that the husband and wife are on the same page. Many times in life we get focused on what isn’t important rather than concentrate our efforts on that which is meaningful. Men can focus on work and neglect the emotional connection with his wife. On the other hand, the wife can sometimes get caught up working and taking care of the home that she forgets how to love her husband as he would like for her to. This of course, does not happen over night but over time.
So here are a number of books that would do your relationship and marriage well. It is no secret that the secret of having a good marriage is to uphold the other person as more important than yourself. So why are most marriages failing if it is no secret? Well, I think that they get caught up thinking about what they want rather than focusing on the other. In short, they have forgotten how to live out the principle. Well, here are 10 books that I have found that can really help marriages live that principle out. Here is a suggestion. Each person should read the same book. This way you can have a discussion and enhance your communication skills. Because the fact of the matter is …. you can never communicate enough. (I use the word, communicate, in a very broad sense here.)
- His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley Jr
- Love as a Way of Life by Gary Chapman
- Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud
- Every Man’s Marriage by Authors Stephen Arterburn & Fred Stoeker
- Love Dare from the Movie, “FireProof”
- The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
- Creating an Intimate Marriage: Rekindle Romance Through Affection, Warmth and Encouragement
- The Total Money Makeover: A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness By Dave Ramsey (You might just need this one after your holiday spending.)
- I Promise You: Preparing for a Marriage That Will Last a Lifetime by Willard F. Harley Jr
- Fall in Love, Stay in Love by Willard F. Harley Jr
If you can think of any others to add along with some personal expereience then by all means do so.