When two people are having a debate the person who is losing will often use a tactic called a red herring to help mislead the upcoming winner to a false conclusion. This false conclusion, of course, is what the looser was trying to argue from the beginning.
To help a procrastinator feel better about not doing what is important he will often introduce a “balanced life” as his goto red herring. The procrastinator must have enough equal parts of sleep time, family time, alone time, thoughtful time, looking for a date time, eating healthful time, thinking about how to make his life better time and et cetera to have a successful life.
When has anyone had a balanced life?
- Did we have a balanced life when we were in the womb?
- Did we have a balanced life when we were newborns sleeping most of the day?
- Did we have a balanced life as toddlers doing everything that our parents told us to do?
- Did we have a balanced life in school when we were forced to go to school, learn and then go home to do homework?
- Did we have a balanced life in college?
- Did we have a balanced life trying to rear kids to be good citizens and financially provide for their wellbeing?
Procrastinators are fearful. They are fearful of failing. They are fearful of being criticized. They are fearful of someone finding out they are a fraud. They would rather cause more work for others because of their lack of effort rather than take responsibility for their own behavior.
Procrastinators always look for a red herring. If the final product is subpar it’s only because time ran out. Their answer to why their product was subpar, “If only I had more time.”
It’s easier for procrastinators to do what they are told and go where they are lead. They can’t blame themselves if they did what someone else said to do. “I just did what I was told to do.” The bad outcome can’t be their fault because it was someone else who made the decision where to go.
Do I consider myself a procrastinator? Yes. I let important deadlines come and go. Yes. I don’t always take ownership of situations and communicate what I am feeling and the direction that I want to go. I have wins. I have battles. I just try to have more wins than losses.
Yup, that’s it. My grandfather made be proud and I’m going to make my grandchildren proud. When I want to wait and procrastinate I ask myself if what I’m willing to not do fall inline with my mission.