I typically listen to business and motivational books on the ipod while I workout. Well, today the motivational speaker stated that the way to keep customers is to help them become extraordinary and successful in THEIR LIVES and not necessarily in their business transactions. I had to pause the audio because it reminded me of a conversation that I had with a close friend. She asked me what I would like to be in the life of my wife. Well, I remember saying really the standard the guys are taught to say at a young age to get the kiss.
“I want to be someone that she can trust with her heart, mind, and soul.”
Like most vision or mission statements of business, this one is quite vague and loaded with contextual definitions that will be interpreted 100 different ways by 100 different people. I thought back to Fergie’s song, “Finally” in the lyric, “Finally, my mate has met my soul.” Once a woman opens herself such that she is willing to freely give her soul to her mate she is trusting him with everything. She is giving her self to him and placing her heart and trust him with, her future, her emotional stability, and the integrity of the relationship between the two. Although every situation is different most women do not want to be divorced or have to support children as a single mom on one income. Every person wants be have a meaningful life and a known and felt purpose to really make a difference to at least one person.
My vision statement for my wife is this:
I want to “be” in such a way that her extraordinariness has no choice BUT to radiate to the world.
Men and Women by nature have the potential to not only be extraordinary but also become influential in this world. Here is a modified question that most motivational speakers will ask is, “What would you do if money was not option and you knew you wouldn’t fail because of your desire to accomplish it?” Each person in the relationship has the power to bring out the best and the worst in the other person. People are at there best when they are at there best! And the best was to do that is to show and tell your love through, action, communication, and anything else that you can think of that they see as affirmation of them.
Out of all the men that the bride has known and met, she has specifically chosen him to be Her Love . Out of all the women that the Groom has known and met, he has specifically chosen her to be His love .
What makes weddings so special to me is that the bride has chosen the groom to be with her for the rest of her life and the groom has chosen the bride to be with him for the rest of her life. As king Solomon once wrote,
"I have found the one whom my soul loves." Song of Solomon 3:4
Be extraordinary in all you do and influence those in such a way so that they too will be extraordinary in all that they do.