FROM Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs on page 213,214

• you verbalize your admiration of him for protecting you and being willing to die for you
• you praise his commitment to provide for and protect you and the family (he needs to know you don’t take this for granted.)
• you empathize when he reveals his male mind-set about position, status, rank, or being one-up or one-down, particularly at work
• you never mock the idea of “looking down on you”
• you never, in word or body language, put down his job or how much he makes
• you are always ready to figuratively “light the candles,” as E.V. Hill’s wife did when they couldn’t afford to pay the light bill
• you quietly and respectfully voice concerns about finances and try to offer solutions on where you might be able to cut spending